The Bonding Project seeks to answer a common question: how do we bond?
For centuries, the mainstream answer has been simple: We bond in sexually monogamous pairs. Yet we are in a time of incredible change and re-thinking: Relationships, community, race, political norms, civic life, even what it means to be human are all shifting from old norms to new possibilities.
Within human bonding, in recent years, non-conventional relationships have become more mainstream. Long-time monogamous partners are discussing “opening” their relationship. Some people are choosing to be “single” forever. Others are creating multi-partner family units. So many possible configurations can make navigating intimate relationships both exciting and confusing.
The Bonding Project’s goal is to help people identify their bonding preferences and connect with partners with compatible bonding styles. Too often mainstream societies take a one-size-fits-all approach to relationships, and dating apps generally focus on one’s quantity of digital connections over quality of compatibility between real humans. With decades of combined personal and professional experience to a variety of romantic and sexual bonding styles, our team sees an opportunity to grow our collective capacity for finding and maintaining diverse, healthy relationships.
It is our hope that, through the resources and community we share, we can support all of you on your own journeys. We're including our staff picks of recommended reading here. If you'd like to learn more, take our test!