Why Didn't You Tell Me?: A Memoir


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Crown Publishing Group (NY)
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5.98 X 9.29 X 1.02 inches | 1.0 pounds

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About the Author

Carmen Rita Wong is a writer and nonprofit board leader whose board positions include The Moth and the Planned Parenthood Federation of America. She was the co-creator and television host of On the Money on CNBC and was a national advice columnist for Glamour, Latina, Men's Health, and Good Housekeeping. Wong is the author of a series of novels and two bestselling advice books. She is the founder and CEO of Malecon Productions, LLC, where she develops female-focused media and entertainment. She lives in Manhattan with her daughter.


"Riveting. . . . [Wong] tells her story in vivid conversational prose that will make readers feel they're listening to a master storyteller on a long car trip. . . . Hers is a hero's journey."--The New York Times Book Review

"Vivid . . . a propulsive pursuit of the truth and the way it's shaped this writer's life."--Literary Hub

"Carmen Rita Wong is a brilliant force. She is a master storyteller, whose voice is a gift to this world."--Catherine Burns, artistic director of The Moth

"This is a vivid and surprising memoir, bracing and bright. Wong drives, without swerving, straight into the thicket of daughters and mothers and (a lot of) fathers; of racism and sexism and the ways in which inequity seeps into every corner of the American story. It is, among other things, an incredible story."--Rebecca Traister, New York Times bestselling author of Good and Mad

"An unflinching, provocative, and deeply satisfying excavation of self . . . With a commanding voice and raw honesty, Carmen Rita Wong fearlessly digs deep beneath the weight of family secrets, the white gaze, and cultural expectations in a search for her identity. Why Didn't You Tell Me? paints a fraught, urgent coming-of-age story that unravels the inner lives of our parents--too often suppressed by white supremacy--and shatters the stranglehold of family silence. The ease of Wong's prose and her unvarnished assessments create an intimacy with the reader that is empowering: that in hearing her journey to truth, we might find the strength to embark on our own."--Xochitl Gonzalez, New York Times bestselling author of Olga Dies Dreaming

"Carmen Rita Wong takes us on a scavenger hunt through her own intersectionality by chronicling her family and upbringing. Wong's primary questions are: Who am I? What is my identity? What makes identity? What is family? And most important, who decides all of the above? The narrative of Why Didn't You Tell Me? follows clues as Wong tries to understand who her real father is. In the end, the treasure is this memoir that she bravely shares with the rest of the world."--Wendy Wasserman, Politics & Prose

"Propulsive . . . explosive . . . Packing in raw emotion, sharp cultural commentary, and plenty of intrigue, this has all the makings of a book that's destined for the big screen. This hits the mark."--Publishers Weekly

"[Carmen Rita Wong's] masterful ability to bring characters to life is a key component of the lively narrative. . . . Snappy writing, unusual empathy, and an unexpectedly satisfying resolution send this memoir to the front of the pack."--Kirkus Reviews (starred review)