When We Become Ours: A YA Adoptee Anthology

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About the Author
Mariama J. Lockington is an adoptee, educator, and Schneider Family Book Award and Stonewall Honor-winning author. She has been telling stories and making her own books since the second grade, when she wore short-alls and flower leggings every day to school. She is the author of For Black Girls Like Me, In the Key of Us, and Forever is Now, as well as a poetry chapbook The Lucky Daughter. Mariama holds a Masters in Education from Lesley University and Masters in Fine Arts in Poetry from San Francisco State University. She lives in Lexington, KY with her partner and dapple haired dachshund, Henry.

Stefany Valentine first fell in love with writing when her elementary school teacher gave her an assignment to create a picture book and she ended up writing a twenty-page manuscript laced with misspelled words. Since then, she's proudly graduated from writing stories about befriending orca whales to tales about the Taiwanese diaspora and existential sci-fi. Her debut novel, First Love Language, in which a Taiwanese adoptee reconnects with her heritage by learning Mandarin, will release in 2025. When not reading or writing, she can be found practicing Mandarin, stuffing her face with street tacos, and trying not to kill her plants. Again.

Susan Harness, author of Mixing Cultural Identities Through Transracial Adoption and the award-winning Bitterroot: A Salish Memoir of Transracial Adoption, is a member of the Confederated Salish and Kootenai Tribes as well as an American Indian transracial adoptee. She holds MAs in both cultural anthropology and creative nonfiction from Colorado State University.

Shannon Gibney is a writer, educator, activist, and the author of See No Color (Carolrhoda Lab, 2015), and Dream Country (Dutton, 2018) young adult novels that won Minnesota Book Awards. Gibney is faculty in English at Minneapolis College, where she teaches writing. A Bush Artist and McKnight Writing Fellow, her speculative memoir, The Girl I Am, Was, and Never Will Be (Dutton, 2023), was named a 2024 Printz Honor Book. She lives in Minneapolis with her family.
Nicole Chung has written for the New York Times, GQ, Longreads, BuzzFeed, Hazlitt, and Shondaland, among other publications. She is Catapult magazine's editor in chief and the former managing editor of The Toast. All You Can Ever Know is her first book. Follow her on Twitter at @nicole_soojung.
Meredith Ireland was born in Korea and adopted by a New York librarian. Her love of books started early and although she pursued both pre-med at Rollins College and law at the University of Miami, stories were her fate. She currently resides with her two children, and Bob, a carnival goldfish, who's likely a person. She writes young adult books, some of which you may like. She is the author of The Jasmine Project and Everyone Hates Kelsie Miller.
MARK OSHIRO is the Hugo-nominated writer of the online Mark Does Stuff universe (Mark Reads and Mark Watches), where they analyze book and TV series. Their debut novel, Anger Is a Gift, was a recipient of the Schneider Family Book Award for 2019. Their lifelong goal is to pet every dog in the world.
ERIC SMITH is an author and literary agent from Elizabeth, New Jersey. When he isn't working on other people's books, sometimes he tries to write his own. He enjoys pop punk, video games, and crying during every movie. He lives in Philadelphia with his wife and best friend, Nena, and their son, Langston. WWW.ERICSMITHROCKS.COM

Kelley Baker is a transracial adoptee born in Colorado and raised in Northern California. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can find her on Instagram @kelleydbaker.

MeMe Collier is a creative writing major turned resident physician who dabbles in various other arts as well, from sketching and painting to singing and writing music. She was raised by her incredible adoptive single mother and grandparents, and the passing of her mother after battling a brain tumor for ten years is a major influence on her desire to pursue medicine and the themes of loss and life afterward that she often explores in her writing. She tries to stay active in the adoptee community, having contributed to the ABC Adoptees Born in China podcast, research studies on how international adoptees form their identity, and a discussion panel with the 1882 Foundation. She has never been much for social media, but she has attempted to start a creativity-focused Instagram account and would be happy to chat. You can find her online by following word.doc96.

Lisa Nopachai is a Mexican American transracial adoptee, born in Texas and raised in an Italian American family in New Jersey, where she fell in love with homemade ravioli and loud music. With a BA in psychology from Amherst College and an MA in intercultural studies from Fuller Theological Seminary, Lisa has worked in the fields of child advocacy, interdisciplinary research, and health-care chaplaincy. Lisa is passionate about creating spaces for people to engage their full range of emotions and process experiences of grief, beauty, pain, and joy. Lisa and her husband live in the Los Angeles area with their two lovely, imaginative kids.

Matthew Salesses is the author of The Sense of Wonder, national bestseller Craft in the Real World, the 2021 finalist for the PEN/Faulkner Award for Fiction Disappear Doppelgänger Disappear, and two other novels. Adopted from Korea, he has written about adoption, race, and Asian American masculinity in The Best American Essays 2020, NPR's Code Switch, the New York Times blog Motherlode, and The Guardian, among other media outlets. BuzzFeed has named him one of 32 Essential Asian American Writers. He lives in New York City, where he is an Assistant Professor of Writing at Columbia University.
신 선 영 Sun Yung Shin is a Korean American poet, fiction writer, nonfiction writer, editor, and educator. Her books include four collections of poetry: The Wet Hex (Coffee House Press, 2022); Unbearable Splendor (Coffee House Press, 2016, Minnesota Book Award winner); Rough, and Savage (Coffee House Press, 2012); and Skirt Full of Black (Coffee House Press, 2006, Asian American Literary Award). Her poetry has been supported with fellowships and grants from the MacDowell Residency, the Archibald Bush Foundation, the McKnight Foundation, and the Minnesota State Arts Board. She lives in Minneapolis near Minnehaha Creek.

Lisa Wool-Rim Sjöblom was born in Busan, South Korea, and adopted to Sweden at age two. She is a comic book artist and illustrator and has published two graphic novels: Palimpsest (2016), an autobiographical account of the search for her Korean family, and The Excavated Earth (2022), which follows Chilean adoptees who were stolen and sold for adoption to Sweden. She is a vocal adoptee rights activist and a Swedish Korean Adoptees' Network member, fighting for truth and justice for adoptees and first parents. Lisa lives in Aotearoa, New Zealand, with her partner, two children, and a cat. Follow her on Instagram at @chung.woolrim.

Jenny Heijun Wills is the author of the multiaward-winning memoir Older Sister. Not Necessarily Related (2019). She was born in Seoul and raised in a white family and community in Southern Ontario, Canada. She is currently professor of English and Chancellor's Research Chair at the University of Winnipeg. She is the author of the forthcoming collection of personal essays Asian Adopted Queer Hungry (2024) as well as coeditor of two academic books.


"An emotion-filled collection." -- Kirkus Reviews

"Nicole and Shannon have done something incredible here: brought together a group of incredibly talented writers to speak to an experience we so rarely see reflected in young adult literature. This anthology is as engaging as it is healing--a must-have for every classroom." -- Leah Johnson, bestselling author of You Should See Me In a Crown