we: an adoption and a memoir


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Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing
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6.0 X 9.0 X 0.69 inches | 1.16 pounds

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"Part memoir, part love letter, part haunting tale, We speaks in simple truths. What it means to be a father, a son, a partner, an adopted family. What it means to hold your baby girl knowing you may have to give her up. This gem of a first book burns deep with feeling, humor and the grace of salty tears. We is a work of shining honesty." -- Jodie Foster

"There is so much raw emotion in these pages--it is captivating, enthralling, and ultimately full of love and hope. Ben writes truth after truth about bringing a new child into this world--a complicated task always, regardless of personal situation. Once you read the first page you'll need to know how this particularly unique story ends--and Ben will beautifully tell you." -- Samantha Bee

"I read this book once. Put it down on my bedside table and carried it around in my heart until I picked it up again and read for a second time...then a third. It's that good. It's that compelling. Mr. Barnz's heartrending honesty is about becoming yourself so your children can take their place in the world." -- Felicity Huffman

"Ben Barnz's beautiful book is a moving reminder of the capacity of love. His account of how this one family was created is a roller coaster ride of emotions & a tidal wave of hope." -- Jesse Tyler Ferguson

"At once heart-warming and gut-wrenching, We had me on the edge of my seat. Ben brings his story to life with such honesty, vulnerability and humor, that I could not put it down. A must-read for anyone who has ever been a parent or had a parent. I did the same ugly crying while reading as when I saw Kramer v. Kramer and Terms of Endearment for the first time. It will make you want to hug your people." -- Mark Feuerstein

"Ben Barnz recounts his journey to fatherhood through the ups and downs of the complex adoption process. With precise emotional memory, Barnz unfolds this lump-in-your-throat, pit-in-your-stomach account of going from a 'me' to a 'we.' The boundless love, reverence and uncommon honesty he shows as he details his suspenseful and emotional path to parenthood will make you wonder if this page-turner of a story is, in fact, your story. Because it is. One way or another, it's all of our stories. I love this book." -- Dan Bucatinsky

"Somewhere, Ben Barnz may be cringing at the idea that I¹ve called him a voice of his generation. Indeed, Ben doesn¹t aspire to tell anyone¹s story but his own, and the power of this memoir lies in his unvarnished honesty, the way he articulates his very complicated, very human feelings about himself, his parents, his husband and the bizarre events that unfold after they bring their baby home." -- Jess Cagle, editor-in-chief, People