The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation

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6.2 X 9.1 X 0.9 inches | 1.2 pounds

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About the Author

Robert W. Firestone, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and author. He has been affiliated with the Glendon Association as its consulting theorist since its inception. His innovative ideas related to psychotherapy, couple and family relationships, suicide, parenting, and existential issues have been the inspiration and cornerstone of Glendon's research and many publications.

Lisa Firestone, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and the Director of Research and Education at the Glendon Association. She also maintains a private practice in Santa Barbara, CA. Since 1987, she has been involved in clinical training and applied research in the areas of suicide and violence.

Joyce Catlett, MA, is an author and lecturer. Since 1979, she has collaborated with Robert Firestone on writing 12 books and numerous articles. She currently lectures and conducts continuing education workshops at universities and mental health facilities throughout the United States and Canada.


"Firestone, Firestone, and Catlett explore the struggle that people face in trying to differentiate themselves as unique individuals. How much of who one is is determined by one's own choices, voices, and volition? How much of who one is is influenced by the values, ideals, and beliefs of significant others from the past, among them parents? The authors describe (and richly contextualize with case studies) a therapeutic technique designed to assist people in separating their own voices from the voices of others from the past. It is important to note that the authors realize the influence of parents need not, necessarily, be the result of some specific action or statement a parent made but could be instead an interpretation of what the "child" believed the parent meant. This is not a treatise on the manner in which parents "ruin" their children. It is a look at how individuals can learn to separate out past voices that they unconsciously repeat and/or incorporate into their own voice and, hence, their own actions. Summing Up: Highly recommended. Professionals and practitioners; general readers."

R. E. Osborne, Texas State University San Marcos, CHOICE

"In The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation, Firestone and colleagues express the existential view that individuals must differentiate their identity from those around them, and maintain an inclusive world-view. This text outlines a useful approach to uncovering these destructive processes in order to differentiate one's identity and fulfill the underlying need for a unique self. Relying on philosophy, this book is dense and best suited for the academically minded, and specifically for practitioners with a bent for psychoanalytic theory."

Joshua D. Wright, Hunter College of The City University of New York, International Journal of Psychotherapy

"I noticed that I was pretty much divided when I read this book. One part of me, the psychologist, absorbed the fascinating discussions and wonderful examples of the powerful voice therapy method. The other part, my very essence, learned more about myself than I could ever have imagined. When both of these parts come together, my Self is strengthened and I know I will be a much more effective therapist."

Violet Oaklander, PhD, author of Windows to Our Children: A Gestalt Therapy Approach with Children and Adolescents

"[These] authors are master therapists with a resonant message. Their voices are a beacon for eliciting humane personal excellence that frees enslaved psyches from fantasy ties that bind."

Jeffrey K. Zeig, PhD, The Milton H. Erickson Foundation

"At a time when much psychological practice is narrow in its focus, The Self Under Siege offers a deep and broad perspective on what it means to be 'fully human, ' and how to get there. Bravo to Firestone and his colleagues, who have been in this endeavor for the long haul."

James Garbarino, PhD, Maude C. Clarke Chair in Humanistic Psychology at Loyola University Chicago; author of Children and the Dark Side of Human Experience

"This is both a fascinating and ground breaking book for psychotherapists and patients with an interest in understanding destructive human behavior through the exploration of our 'critical inner voices. [It] never ceases to surprise and inform, an invitation to savor the joys of relationships whilst giving us the strength to cope with separation and loss."

Dr Felicity de Zulueta, Emeritus Consultant Psychiatrist in Psychotherapy at the SLaM NHS Foundation Trust; Hon. Senior Lecturer in Traumatic Studies at KCL

"This rich book, full of important insights and moving examples, is recommended for therapists, for individuals, couples and families motivated to free themselves from the shackles imposed by the voices of the "enemy within".

Ayala M. Pines, PhD, Dean and Professor, Faculty of Management Ben Gurion University Israel; author of Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose

The Self under Siege is a timely and compelling exposition of Robert Firestone and his colleagues' cutting edge Separation Theory and Voice Therapy. A must read for clinicians, clinical researchers, academic psychologists, and anyone interested in better understanding human affairs. 

Sheldon Solomon, PhD, Professor, Skidmore College; co-author of In the Wake of 9-11

"A meticulous and absorbing work of deep scholarship that describes our defenses against death anxiety and how they cripple the self and relationships. It supports its hypotheses with excellent end-notes, references, quotations, and patients' poignant and inspiring testimonies"

J. Christopher A. Morrant, MB, BS, D(Obst) RCOG, DPM, FRCP(c)