Say More bookcover

Say More

Consent Conversations for Teens

Kitty Stryker 

(Author)

Heather Corinna 

(Foreword by)
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Description

Talking about consent can feel overwhelming, especially for young people who may be navigating their own boundaries for the first time. In Say More, consent culture activist Kitty Stryker guides teenagers in exploring what consent means to them. This timely and practical workbook allows the reader to work at their own pace and in their own way, with concrete examples from Kitty's own youth, prompts inspired by questions teens have asked her and comprehensive resources to encourage further exploration and introspection.

Product Details

PublisherThornapple Press
Publish DateApril 26, 2024
Pages160
LanguageEnglish
TypeBook iconPaperback / softback
EAN/UPC9781990869518
Dimensions8.0 X 5.2 X 0.5 inches | 0.5 pounds

About the Author

Kitty Stryker has been working on defining and creating a consent culture for over ten years through her writing, workshops, and website. She's the editor of Ask: Building Consent Culture and author of Ask Yourself: The Consent Culture Workbook and Say More: Consent Conversations for Teens. She is especially interested in bringing conversations about consent out of the bedroom and into everyday life.

Heather Corinna is the founder, director, designer and editor of Scarleteen, the first truly comprehensive sex, sexuality and relationships education site and resource for young people of its kind. She is also the author of S.E.X: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties (DaCapo Press); with Isabella Rotman, Wait, What?: A Comic Book Guide to Relationships, Bodies, and Growing Up (Oni Press) and the menopause memoir-slash-survival guide What Fresh Hell Is This? Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities and You (Hachette Go!).

Reviews

"Say More is a brilliant overview of all things consent. It gives teens spot-on, realistic advice about how we might navigate all our relationships more consensually, and about how to handle things when we, inevitably, don't manage it at times."--Dr. Meg-John Barker, co-author of How To Understand Your Sexuality and Sexuality: A Graphic Guide
"Say More will change the game for many young people and parents, whether dealing with extreme situations or the everyday challenges of interpersonal relationships and maintaining one's agency."--Alex Winter, Actor

An engaging, inclusive, and informative guide to this crucial topic.

Stryker offers a conversational and informative teens' guide to discussing issues of consent.

From the outset of this guide, the author, a journalist and consent activist, is clear that it's intended for teen readers: Preceding the main text is a "Note to Adults" that recommends strategies for getting the book into teens' hands and beginning conversations about a subject that can be difficult to broach. Stryker is extremely clear throughout that consent is not just about sex. Early on, she defines the book as "part mentorship, part critical-thinking guide, part self-exploration, part challenge to the things we learn culturally as 'just how it is.'" She acknowledges that there's no "One True Answer" when it comes to consent--the book is intended as a jumping-off point for further thought and conversation. Within those parameters, Stryker tackles consent in all its various forms. The author presents each chapter as a question that she answers by using definitions, cultural context, clear examples, and suggestions for incorporating the ideas discussed into readers' lives; the Q&A format makes the difficult topic more accessible for teens (or anyone). Some questions she considers include "Why is consent so often treated as a gendered thing?"; "Is consent sexy?"; and "What's the difference between coercion and consent?" Stryker also delves into potential "what ifs" teens may think about, such as, what if "someone doesn't respect your boundaries?" and "What should I do when I've crossed someone's boundaries?" Keeping these heady questions accessible for her adolescent audience, Stryker answers them using ample personal examples and practical advice. This combination of lived experience and actionable counsel makes the material feel authentic and useful. For reasons laid out in the introductory chapters, the author draws more from personal experience and narrative examples than academic research, as she finds much of the literature on consent to be excessively gendered and narrow. Stryker is able to be more inclusive in her book, specifically discussing how these issues might differ for LGBTQ+ teens.

An engaging, inclusive, and informative guide to this crucial topic.

-- "Kirkus Reviews" (2/17/2024 12:00:00 AM)

Kitty Stryker has followed up her powerful book on consent culture with an essential resource for young people. Say More is crystal clear and complex without being dense or academic and is brimming with compassion "
"Say More is an accessible, practical, friendly guide to consent and healthy boundaries in all kinds of relationships." --Jennifer Peepas, creator of CaptainAwkward.com
"Say More turns the nuanced social cues of consent into concrete frameworks, providing clear scripts and step-by-step guidance for critical conversations that too often go unspoken." --Sarah Dopp, ADHD coach and neurodivergent writer
"Although aimed at teens, I recommend Say More to everyone. Kitty Stryker has written a brilliant, illuminating torch of a book; the more people who read and use it, the brighter and clearer all our interactions can be." --Alix Fox, sexual culture writer and script consultant to Netflix's Sex Education
"An engaging, inclusive, and informative guide to this crucial topic." --Kirkus Reviews
"Kitty is not only tackling the right topic but aiming at the exact right audience to make the most amount of positive impact."--Kevin A. Patterson, M.Ed, author of Love's Not Color Blind
"Kitty Stryker dives into the complexities and nuances of consent while giving straightforward and concise information and advice on how to navigate it all." --Erica Scott, co-author of Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators and founder of Creating Consent Culture
"This book is an accessible guide to navigating consent in multiple contexts! It's practical, insightful, and respects the individual as well as the cooperative nature of preferable human interaction." --Avens O'Brien, Feminists for Liberty
"Through unpacking common consent slogans and rules, Stryker gives teens the space and permission to reflect on their understanding of consent and their own consent practices." --Sarah Casper, consent educator
Stryker goes beyond first-time and initial interactions, exploring such issues as "What's the Best Way to Tell Someone You've Changed Your Mind?" and "What Should I Do When I've Crossed Someone's Boundaries?" Features include a toolbox of strategies, checklists, consent tips, a bibliography, website guides, crisis resources, and a helpful glossary. This offers accessible and useful guidance for teens (and their parents), no matter how they identify.--Kathleen McBroom "Booklist"

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