My Link to Mildred: Interrupting the Epidemic of Trauma via Nonviolent Communication

"We have known of Dr. Cindy Bigbie's work for some years. We never knew how truly impactful it was until March 28, 2010. That was the day our son, Conor, shot his fiancée, Ann. NVC was introduced to Conor by Cindy in a prison betterment program. Since then, Conor has stated that if he had been taught NVC while in high school, he would not be in prison and Ann would be alive. This real-world example shows the profound impact Cindy's work could have on a community. Everyone, everywhere, can benefit from learning the skills associated with NVC. We recommend, from the hearts of two who know, that you read this book and learn Dr. Cindy Bigbie's Method."

- Julie and Michael McBride, President of Florida Restorative Justice Association

"Our most highly rated and sought-after curriculum is the one that Dr. Bigbie brought to Thomas University years ago. It was all based in the very same processes that she puts forth in this writing. I have seen enormous changes in how teachers respond in critical communication instances due to Dr. Bigbie's legacy at Thomas University."

- Susan Lynn, PhD, Chair and Professor, Thomas University Division of Education

"Cindy and I have been close colleagues and friends for many years in the world of Nonviolent Communication (NVC). She is the real deal, a depth of dedication and commitment to human healing and transformation I have found stunning and awe-inspiring since first knowing her. This very personal story of her mother, their relationship, and healing trauma in her family gives us an up-close, intimate experience of how this kind of transformation can really happen. Told in rich, moving, and poetic language, this story is a profound offering and inspiration to all of us individually and also collectively on our human journey of healing and transformation of violence and suffering."

- John Kinyon, Co-creator of the international Mediate Your Life training, trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC)

"From the very beginning of this beautifully written book, Dr. Bigbie plants within us a heightened awareness of the role intergenerational trauma plays in our human conduct and experience. This very personal story of her life not only sheds light on the mysteries of life and death, but also shows us the path to end the vicious cycle of violence. This is a courageous, moving, and deeply personal story that will change your life."

- Heart Phoenix, Chair and Co-Founder of The River Phoenix Center for Peacebuilding

"After more than twenty years educating students who have experienced significant trauma, what I have gained from Cindy and the Bigbie Method has reformed my thinking and provided a framework for connection and empathy. As the principal of our district's alternative school, I see daily examples of the effectiveness of the Bigbie Method on my campus, as students with limited awareness of effective communication are learning to give and receive empathy. If you open your mind and your soul to what is offered in this book, relationships will be restored, and stronger communities will be built."

- Amy Alvis, Principal, Second Chance and Success Academy

"Dr. Cindy Bigbie has gained widespread recognition as a restorative practices director, as an entrepreneur, as a podcaster, and for her innovative Nonviolent Communication course. Moreover, she has inspired our community to find transformational connection and healing. Her inspirational reach now continues with her story of intergenerational trauma and the path to healing."

- Jeremiah W. Murphy, President of Connection First and Professor of Physics at Florida State University