I Miss You When I Blink: Essays

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About the Author

Mary Laura Philpott, nationally bestselling author of I Miss You When I Blink and Bomb Shelter, writes essays and memoirs that examine the overlap of the absurd and the profound in everyday life. Her writing has been featured by The New York Times, The Washington Post, and The Atlantic, among many other publications. A former bookseller, she also hosted an interview program on Nashville Public Television for several years. Mary Laura lives in Nashville, Tennessee, with her family


"What I love most about Mary Laura Philpott and her wonderful book is that she--self-proclaimed type A, obsessive achiever--gives herself permission to change. This book is inspiring for those of us with small children underfoot and forty close on the horizon. Mary Laura is a generous and funny guide to the midlife conundrums."--Emma Straub, author of Modern Lovers
"At once rueful, hilarious, brave, and inspiring, I Miss You When I Blink is beautifully relatable and reassuring, even as it makes you pause and think. This marvelous collection of essays belongs on the bookshelf sandwiched between Anne Lamott and Nora Ephron. Mary Laura Philpott is going to make a whole lot of readers feel seen and understood."--Dani Shapiro, author of Hourglass
"Mary Laura Philpott is the friend you call when you want to cry but need to laugh. What a treat to spend time with her distinctive voice as she plumbs life's quotidian moments to unearth deeper, universal truths. Wry, intelligent, and searingly honest, this book is a joy."--Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney, author of The Nest
"I Miss You When I Blink is a delightful, thought-provoking collection of essays, written with such spark and vulnerability that I was alternately laughing out loud and gasp-sighing at its poignancy. Mary Laura Philpott shows us her real, flawed self in these pages, sharing when she's made mistakes, when she's been less than charitable, or when she wasn't sure who she was 'supposed' to be. It's easy to connect with her honesty, and damn fun to laugh at her jokes. This book is totally irresistible!"--Edan Lepucki, author of California and Woman No. 17
"Mary Laura Philpott is a writer, artist, and creator of singular spark and delight. I adore her, and I love her work. Thank God she has finally written a memoir! By offering these dispatches from her own life experience, she leaves us thinking about ourselves--where we've been, where we're going, and who we really want to be."--Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and Big Magic
"Infinitely relatable. Beautifully written. I'm ready to read it again."--Jenny Lawson, author of Let's Pretend This Never Happened and Furiously Happy
"Mary Laura Philpott is relentlessly funny, self-effacing and charming as she tells the story of living as a triple-A-plus perfectionist. Everything in her life is done on time and exactly right, until, of course, it all starts to fall apart. In her willingness to tell her own story, she taps into a universal truth for so many women: We plan to do it all until we find we can't do anything anymore. I Miss You When I Blink made me laugh, it made me cry. I miss it already."--Ann Patchett, author of This Is the Story of a Happy Marriage and Commonwealth
"Heartwarming... Philpott's prose is conversational and easy to settle into....Comforting and reassuring."--Publishers Weekly
"Warm, candid, and wise, Philpott's book is both an extended reflection on the pressures of being female and a survivor's tale about finding contentment by looking within and learning to be herself. Delightfully bighearted reading."--Kirkus Reviews
"Her collection of essays reads like a brutally honest conversation with your most relatable friend. It'll make you feel infinitely less alone."--HelloGiggles
"In her memoir-in-essays, acclaimed writer Mary Laura Philpott addresses the conflicting pressures of modern adulthood and that inevitable "stuck" feeling so many of us become familiar with. Part confessional, part pep talk, I Miss You When I Blink is a reassuring read about learning how to accept that doing things wrong can be the way to do life right."--Bustle
"A funny and self-effacing memoir-in-essays from a bookseller who thought she had her whole life figured out (and had done everything right and gotten everything she wanted) only to wake up one day and realize that . . . she hadn't. Relatable!"--Lit Hub
"It feels like we are sitting at a table together and having the best conversation about all the things that truly matter. The tone is so perfect -- calibrated and balanced -- and I don't know how she pulled that off. The result is a kind of wisdom in these essays that comes from making so many wrong turns they strangely add up to something that is exactly right."--Claire Cameron, author of The Last Neanderthal
"A mosaic of a life changing in subtle rather than radical ways . . . Readers with their own sets of anxieties should be charmed by the author's friendly tone, warm sense of humor, and relatable experiences."

"This wonderful memoir-in-essays from Nashville writer Mary Laura Philpott is a frank and funny look at what happens when, in the midst of a tidy life, there occur impossible-to-ignore tugs toward creativity, meaning, and the possibility of something more."--Southern Living
"I've spent my adult life prowling bookshelves for the modern day reincarnation of my favorite authors--Nora Ephron, Erma Bombeck, Jean Kerr, and Lawrie Colwin--all rolled into one....Good news: I have finally found their successor....refreshingly honest and funny...her real gift lies in making the connection between the small moments and the big ones, so you feel you've walked into a complicated, glittering web...delicious."--The Washington Post
"Be forewarned that you'll laugh out loud and cry, probably in the same essay. Philpott has a wonderful way of finding humor, even in darker moments. This is a book you'll want to buy for yourself and every other woman you know."--Real Simple
"I Miss You When I Blink" by Laura Philpott is what happens when you live life according to a piece of paper. It's a memoir about following the rules and what happens when you veer off track. Spoiler: happiness ahead."--The Skimm
"Philpott offers wisdom about finding happiness even if your life isn't quite the hair-raising adventure you'd envisioned."--Refinery29
"Checking boxes doesn't automatically equal happiness. Sometimes, you can do everything 'right, ' like getting married and having kids, and still want more. With titles like 'Ungrateful Bitch' and 'A Letter to the Extremely Type A Person in Distress, ' Mary Laura Philpott's essays will remind you that it's okay to reinvent yourself--no grueling three-month hike required."--Hello Giggles
"Brimming with vulnerability and sparkling humor."--BookPage
"By injecting dire moments with self-effacing irony and slapstick humor, Philpott simultaneously provides levity and illuminates the tragi-comic nature of modern American life, wherein even the most fortunate of us struggle with a search for meaning. 'I Miss You When I Blink' is a generous collection, written as if to say 'I see you; you are not alone' to the many readers who lead outwardly happy lives yet privately wonder why they don't feel as happy or fulfilled as the world tells them they should."--Chapter16
"Laugh-out-loud funny....Mary laura Philpott's hilarious and comforting essay collection will reassure women questioning their abilities and choices."--Shelf Awareness for Readers, starred review
"[A] delightfully personal but relatable collection of essays-as-memoir that puts Philpott in league with Elizabeth Gilbert, Nora Ephron, and Cheryl Strayed."--Garden & Gun
"Witty, and poignant, and a page-turner... If you have even one type-a bone in your body, it'll leave you nodding your head, and--forgive the crude appropriation C.S. Lewis--but thinking, 'What! You too? I thought that no one but myself.'"--Town and Country
"In re-examining her own priorities with warm and self-effacing humor, she makes a persuasive case for chucking to-do lists and rethinking life's 'right' choices."--Newsweek
"The Best Books of 2019 to Add to Your Reading List: What happens when you get exactly the life you wanted and realize you want something completely different? You could run away from home ... or you can make like Philpott, who's been called 'the modern-day reincarnation' of authors Nora Ephron and Erma Bombeck, and enact some mini life changes that pay off in major happiness."--Good Housekeeping
"At once a love letter to type-A people everywhere and a gentle reminder that it's okay (necessary, even) to change, this full-hearted book is a warm embrace of a life lived imperfectly."--Esquire
"Philpott simultaneously provides levity and illuminates the tragi-comic nature of modern American life, wherein even the most fortunate of us struggle with a search for meaning. 'I Miss You When I Blink' is a generous collection, written as if to say 'I see you; you are not alone' to the many readers who lead outwardly happy lives yet privately wonder why they don't feel as happy or fulfilled as the world tells them they should."--Nashville Scene
"There aren't many books that have made me tear up from both laughing and crying - on the same page. Mary Laura Philpott's essays truly capture the emotional pull of mothering beyond the baby stage - coexisting, for some, with a midlife crisis-esque period."--Meghan Collins Sullivan, senior editor, NPR Books
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