I'm Afraid of Men


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$16.00  $14.88
Penguin Books Canada
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4.8 X 7.0 X 0.6 inches | 0.45 pounds

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About the Author

VIVEK SHRAYA is an artist whose body of work crosses the boundaries of music, literature, visual art, theatre, and film. Her bestselling book I'm Afraid of Men was heralded by Vanity Fair as "cultural rocket fuel," and her album with Queer Songbook Orchestra, Part-Time Woman, was nominated for the Polaris Music Prize. The founder of the publishing imprint VS. Books, Shraya is a six-time Lambda Literary Award finalist, a director on the board of the Tegan and Sara Foundation, and an Assistant Professor of Creative Writing at the University of Calgary. She's currently adapting her debut play, How to Fail As a Popstar, into a television pilot script with the support of CBC.


Finalist for the 2019 Lambda Literary Award, Transgender Nonfiction
Winner of the 2018 Alcuin Society Awards for Excellence in Book Design - Prose Non-Fiction

Named a Best Book by: The Globe and Mail, Indigo, Out Magazine, Audible, CBC, Apple, Quill & Quire, Kirkus Reviews, Brooklyn Public Library, Writers' Trust of Canada, Autostraddle, Bitch, and BookRiot.

"Vivek Shraya transforms her long-festering fears of men into cultural rocket fuel ... Shraya's dispatches from the frontlines of life as a queer, trans woman of color are frequently illuminating, painfully honest, and, in spite of everything, hopeful."
--Vanity Fair

"Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and challenge you to do better. This challenge is a necessary one--one we must all take up. It is a gift to dive into Vivek's heart and mind."
--Rupi Kaur, bestselling author of The Sun and Her Flowers and Milk and Honey

"Brilliant, funny, and deeply vulnerable, Shraya's I'm Afraid of Men is both a moving memoir and a rallying cry for a better future. Her insights on the myriad ways the binary oppresses and denigrates are invaluable and resonant. I adore this book."
--Jill Soloway

"In I'm Afraid of Men, Vivek Shraya owns and exposes her own history with masculinity and offers a way out of this harmful and old-fashioned binary we call gender. My head nodded along quietly in agreement any time I wasn't wiping away rising tides of tears. Vivek Shraya is a superior voice, and this book is essential reading for everyone."
--Tegan Quin of Tegan and Sara

"Vivek Shraya's writing is always empathetic but challenging, kind but sharp, and I'm Afraid of Men forces you to confront what you think you know about masculinity, privilege, and fear. Reading Shraya's writing will make you a better person, through and through."
--Scaachi Koul, author of One Day We'll All Be Dead and None of This Will Matter

"Shraya crafts each of her memories in prose made poetic with touches of metaphor. She writes with honesty and vulnerability, all the while asking challenging and personal questions that inspire deeper reflection. This crucial addition to shelves offers the vital and often ignored perspective of a trans woman of color. A book to carry with you."
--Kirkus Reviews (starred review)

"Anyone who has ever looked behind them when walking at night, avoided eye contact with strangers or wiped off a lipstick for being too bold--so, all of us--should read this mini-manifesto."
--Elle Canada

"A gift and a hell of a book--beautiful, intimate, insightful, and essential."
--Jesse Wente, NOW Magazine

"Viscerally powerful ... creating tectonic fissures into antiquated beliefs around gender identity."
--Toronto Star