How We Do Family: From Adoption to Trans Pregnancy, What We Learned about Love and LGBTQ Parenthood

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5.59 X 8.58 X 0.94 inches | 0.88 pounds

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About the Author

Trystan Reese and his partner Biff Chaplow are gay dads based in Portland Oregon who love sharing their unique family story. Trystan is a transgender man, seahorse dad, author, activist and public speaker passionate about transgender reproductive justice.


"This narrative of an extraordinary family describes what it's like to be a trans father, a pregnant man, an adoptive father--what it's like to invent and enact new relational structures. Trystan Reese writes with great tenderness and compassion, and also with a well-considered agenda of political and social activism. This rollicking book will release love that might otherwise have remained buried; it limns the exact quality of joy that can inhere in inventing not only yourself, but also the world you live in."--Andrew Solomon, National Book Award-winning author of The Noonday Demon and Far from the Tree

"A love letter to queer culture and queer strength and what people of any gender or sexuality can learn from it."--Xtra

"You can't meet Trystan and not like him. The same goes for this book. First of all, he spelled everything right. Those correctly spelled words make a great read about Trystan and his pregnancy. Yes. His. See I told you this book was going to be good. You're gonna learn stuff but you'll like it."--Willam

"This triumphant tale of unwavering love had me laughing, crying, and celebrating this beautiful family. A powerful personal story with plenty of wisdom to share on everything from LGBTQ awareness to parenting challenges--the whole world should read this book."--Amanda Jetté Knox, bestselling author of Love Lives Here: A Story of Thriving in a Transgender Family

"To read this book is to be drawn in to a family love story so compelling that you can't help but wish that Trystan and his family were your neighbors, so that you could bask in their wonder-fulness every day. How We Do Family serves both as a critically necessary educational tool as well as a captivating story of one person's dogged pursuit of personal, marital, familial, and communal health and connection. A beautiful piece of art and instruction, it offers powerful lessons in empathy, advocacy, and open-hearted partnering and parenting. Most of all, however, it tells the story of love so strong and determined that everything within it seems luminous around it's very human core. Our world would be a significantly better place if it were required reading for all."--Doreen Dodgen-Magee, PsyD, author of Restart: Designing a Healthy Post-Pandemic Life