He/She/They: How We Talk about Gender and Why It Matters


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$30.00  $27.90
Hachette Go
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5.98 X 9.13 X 1.18 inches | 1.25 pounds

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About the Author

Schuyler Bailar (he/him) is an educator, author, and advocate. He is also the first transgender athlete to compete in any sport on an NCAA Division 1 men's team. Schuyler's exemplary work has earned him numerous honors including NYC Pride Grand Marshall, the Out 100, LGBTQ Nation's Instagram Advocate of the year, and the Harvard Varsity Director's Award. In addition to being one of the top LGBTQ+ educators and advocates, Schuyler is a leading DEI speaker and advisor who has been featured in countless media outlets. Schuyler also hosts the hit podcast "Dear Schuyler" on gender and culture and is the creator of the groundbreaking LaneChanger.com gender literacy online learning series. He holds a degree in Cognitive Neuroscience and Evolutionary Psychology from Harvard, and works in four research labs focusing in clinical psychology and public health.


"He/She/They by Schuyler Bailar is an incredible book and resource for all who want to understand gender & transness based off of someone who has lived it. Schuyler is an activist, athlete, educator, and now writer! This book is informative, fabulous to read, and leaves the reader with information, joy and proactive ways to get involved in what is one of the most important human rights conversations of our time. I love this book & Schuyler, you will too!"--Jonathan Van Ness, New York Times bestselling author, podcaster, comedian, and television personality
"Schuyler was the first trans person I ever followed on social media. He/She/They reminded me of why I hit that follow button years ago- because of Schuyler's ability to speak on gender in non-intimidating ways. I wish I had this book to guide my own journey years ago, but I am so glad it exists now. We need it!"--Dylan Mulvaney, actress, comedian, TikTok personality
"A wonderfully clear and convincing guide to comprehending and defending gender diversity."--Kirkus, Starred Review
"A smart and accessible discussion of gender and sexuality."--Publisher's Weekly
"This book is both a wonderful resource for readers who want to know more on these topics but aren't sure where to start and for trans folks looking how to navigate coming out, dating, mental health, and more...Trans and gender-fluid teens will see themselves in Bailar's meaningful work, and cis teens will find essential information on being a good ally."--Booklist, Starred Review

"Courageous and heartwarming, He/She/They sheds light on the journey of gender discovery and acceptance. As a fellow advocate for transgender rights, I am inspired by Schuyler's unwavering honesty and resilience. His powerful narrative challenges societal norms, encouraging readers to embrace their authentic selves fearlessly. A must-read for anyone seeking understanding, compassion, and hope on the path to self-discovery."

--Jazz Jennings, [she/her], activist, television personality, and author