First Comes Marriage: My Not-So-Typical American Love Story

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Prometheus Books
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6.2 X 1.3 X 9.1 inches | 1.1 pounds
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About the Author

Huda Al-Marashi currently lives in Encinitas, California, with her husband and three children. Her writing has appeared in the Washington Post, the LA Times, Al Jazeera, the VIDA Review, the Offing, and elsewhere.


"Charming, funny, heartbreaking memoir of faith, family and the journey to love. If Jane Austen had grown up as a first-gen daughter of Iraqi parents in the 1990s, she might have written this. Keenly observed, with indelible characters, Al-Marashi portrays the complex mores and manners that govern life and love in the immigrant community of her youth." --Washington Post
"Honest and compelling, this memoir deconstructs the American pop culture idea of love and challenges the taboo within the Muslim community. And despite the rough path, her love for Hadi reconciles and grows to be more than your typical fairy tale." -- Hippocampus Magazine
"Sweet, candid and poignant First Comes Marriage: My Not-So-Typical American Love Story is part biography, part love story, part cultural narrative and altogether delightful. This charming tale of love not-so-American style does a fabulous job of introducing readers to the idea that not all romances must follow the path pushed upon us by Hollywood."-- All About Romance
"Al-Marashi's story reminds us that there are so many ways to be a girlfriend, a fiancée, a mother, a sister, a wife, and a bride. Her book artfully upturns the colonial assumptions that so often govern stories about love and marriage, while also exposing the tensions inherent in building a life and a family while balancing conflicting cultural expectations derived from not one, but two well-loved homelands." --Vida Review
"Told with exuberance and honesty, First Comes Marriage is a charming, delightful memoir of love and self-discovery. Huda Al-Marashi has written a smart, down-to-earth, and unforgettable modern-day love story that celebrates the enduring bonds of culture, faith, and family. A wonderful book." --Jasmin Darznik, New York Times-bestselling author of The Good Daughter and Song of a Captive Bird
"This sweet, sharply insightful memoir of an Iraqi American marriage skewers stereotypes as it leaves you cheering for these newlyweds." --Susan Muaddi Darraj, author of A Curious Land
"Determined to weave her own love story from the threads of the two seemingly opposing cultures she grew up in, Al-Marashi fearlessly takes us on a journey into the darkest corners of her young marriage, as well as herself." --Jen Waite, internationally bestselling author of A Beautiful, Terrible Thing
"An honest, often amusing, account of one young woman's quest to balance the traditional Muslim values she acquired from her Iraqi immigrant parents with the romantic fantasies she acquired from American media. Her story is both unique in that the devout, overachieving narrator is not the rebellious first-generation daughter we've come to expect from immigrant narratives, and universal in its instructive journey from youthful hubris and naïveté to learning how to make a marriage work." --Faith Adiele, author of The Nigerian Nordic Girl's Guide to Lady Problems, and founder of VONA Travel Workshop for Writers of Color
"There comes a time in every relationship (romantic or platonic) when one must decide to leave or stay. With courage, humor, and vulnerability, skilled memoirist Huda Al-Marashi excavates the contours of her marriage, intimately sharing with the reader the journey to her moment of choice." --Ayesha Mattu, coeditor of Love, InshAllah: The Secret Love Lives of American Muslim Women and Salaam, Love: American Muslim Men on Love, Sex, and Intimacy