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Dress Codes

Of Three Girlhoods--My Mother's, My Father's, and Mine
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Description

An intensely felt and extraordinary family memoir by Noelle Howey, who characterizes her touching and confusing sexual journey into womanhood as influenced by her relationship with her transgendered father and tomboy mother.

Throughout her childhood in suburban Ohio, Noelle struggled to gain love and affection from her distant father. In compensating for her father's brusqueness, Noelle idolized her nurturing tomboy mother and her conservative grandma who tried to turn her into "a little lady." At age fourteen, Noelle's mom told her the family secret: "Dad likes to wear women's clothes." As Noelle copes with a turbulent adolescence, her father begins to metamorphose into the loving parent she had always longed for—only now outfitted in pedal pushers and pink lipstick.

With edgy humor, courage, and remarkable sensitivity, Noelle Howey challenges all of our beliefs in what constitutes gender and a "normal" family.

Product Details

PublisherPicador
Publish DateMay 02, 2003
Pages352
LanguageEnglish
TypeBook iconPaperback / softback
EAN/UPC9780312422202
Dimensions215.9 X 139.7 X 0.8 mm | 1.0 pounds

About the Author

Noelle Howey is the co-editor of Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing Up with Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Parents, winner of two 2000 Lambda Literary Awards. She has also written for Ms., Jane, Mother Jones, Teen People, Bitch, Mademoiselle, and Self. A finalist for a GLAAD Media Award, she received a 2001 Nonfiction Fellowship from the New York Foundation for the Arts. An Ohio native, Noelle Howey lives in Minneapolis with her husband.

Reviews

“A profoundly affecting account of her father's long road to self-realization and a meditation on what it means to be female.” —San Francisco Chronicle Book Review

“[Howey] never loses her sense of humor.... A clever writer, Howey takes this incredible material and creates a witty, warm, life-affirming memoir.” —The Washington Post Book World

“Howey's voice is chatty and clear, sassy at times, with all the aplomb of somebody used to explaining an unusual family structure. Dress Codes is a mix of contemporary references and timeless emotion.” —The Oregonian (Portland)

“It's hard to imagine any memoir of recent years that better exemplifies ‘family values'--in the form of openness, love, and the sharing of intimacies.” —Salon.com

“This memoir is told with an honesty and tenderness that truly sets it apart from other tell-all tales.” —Elle

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