Too many people take their lives-or commit violence toward others-because they don't know how to cope with intense feelings. When people aren't encouraged to talk about what's going on inside, their emotions can become overwhelming. Some of them lash out at others, and some of them sink into despair, believing that suicide is the only option.
When someone is bullied, whether it's a kid in school or a white-collar worker in a major corporation, the first impulse is to keep the incident to themselves, and hope it doesn't happen again. But bullies are persistent, and as the problem escalates, the victim can feel as if there's nowhere to turn, and no one is safe to talk to.
This revised second edition of Bullied: Why You Feel Bad Inside and What to Do About It offers hope to kids and adult victims of school, workplace, or family bullying. Written by award-winning author Katherine Mayfield, Bullied teaches the skills and tools of emotional intelligence, and offers a simple four-step plan that readers can use to manage their difficult feelings and express them in healthy ways.
The book also includes tips for coping with bullies; hotlines and advice for people who are considering suicide; suggestions for raising self-esteem; interviews with psychologists and adults who were bullied in childhood and took steps to recover from the trauma; and resources for people who feel they have nowhere to turn. Quotes from famous people, designed to help distressed readers think differently about emotions, confidence, and success, are included throughout the book.
Bullied shows readers how to manage sadness and depression, anger, and fear, how to ask for help and support, and how to raise self-esteem. There's also a section for people who bully others and want to stop. The Foreword to the book has been written by Michelle Baker, Director of Education of the Blaze My Trail Youth Program.
This revised second edition provides information on workplace bullying.
Praise for Bullied: Why You Feel Bad Inside and What to Do About It:
"Bullied gently gives readers many of the tools to start pulling themselves out of a situation that can appear hopeless. Mayfield explains why kids become bullies, what to do when parents or teachers are the bullies, and tips for when a student gets so mad he or she feels tempted to hurt someone. Most importantly, she urges the victim to remember that the situation will get better in the future."--Voice of Youth Advocates
"In less than 100 pages, this book can help people through the challenge of being a bullying victim as well as understand how their own anger can inadvertently cause them to become a bully."--PsychologyToday.com
About the Author
Katherine Mayfield is the award-winning author of The Box of Daughter, a memoir describing her journey of recovery from family bullying and emotional abuse; Stand Your Ground: How to Cope with a Dysfunctional Family and Recover from Trauma; a book of poetry, a book of essays, and a number of Kindle books on dysfunctional families. She has appeared as keynote speaker for regional conferences, and has presented at schools and libraries across the Northeast on recovery from bullying and emotional abuse. Ms. Mayfield appeared on NBC-TV's 207 to discuss the bullying epidemic in relation to her book, Bullied, and has been a guest on radio shows across the country, discussing recovery from bullying and prevention of teen suicide. She has written for national magazines, local newspapers, and numerous websites, and has received funding from the Maine Arts Commission for her work. Ms. Mayfield's memoir, The Box of Daughter, won awards in the New England Book Festival and Reader's Favorite Awards, and was nominated as a finalist in the Maine Literary Awards. Along with her books, publication credits include Dance Teacher Now magazine, Dance Spirit magazine, The Significato Journal online, Sasee magazine, The Women's Times, the Greenfield Recorder, Salon.com, TinyBuddha.com, MeaningfulWomen.com, and WomensMemoirs.com. A former actress, she appeared Off-Broadway and on the daytime drama Guiding Light. She blogs on dysfunctional families on her website, www.TheBoxofDaughter.com.
"A definitive guide to bullying." -Kathleen Shannon, NBC-TV's "207" "A compelling and insightful expose of the damage bullying can do to a child's self-esteem, and of measures that can be taken to stop it....For anyone who ever found themselves at the mercy of a bully, Mayfield's latest offering is definitely a book to have front and center on your shelves." -Nashua Telegraph "Bullied gently gives readers many of the tools to start pulling themselves out of a situation that can appear hopeless. Mayfield covers why kids become bullies, what to do when parents or teachers are the bullies, and tips for when a student gets so mad he or she feels tempted to hurt someone. Most importantly, she urges the victim to remember that the situation will get better in the future." -Voice of Youth Advocates "In less than 100 pages, this book can help people through the challenge of being a bullying victim as well as understand how their own anger can inadvertently cause them to become a bully." -PsychologyToday.com "This book is a great tool to start the conversation with your kids on what bullying truly looks like and how they can look it straight in the face and fight back. The book is a quick read with inspirational quotes from many well-known figures of our times. I applaud Katherine for rising above her past and being one of those people who seeks to make the path easier for others." -PowerofMoms.com "Bullied: Why You Feel Bad Inside and What to Do About It is an intriguing and helpful guide for those who have been tormented by bullies, and those who are bullies themselves.... Mayfield's book offers great solace and encouragement for those who may be lacking in confidence and self-esteem caused by being tormented by those who feel the need to take out their frustrations on others." -BellaOnline.com "Bullying may be the defining issue for young people in America in the 21st century. Katherine Mayfield covers both the bullies in the home and the bullies at school with clarity, empathy, and sincerity. She gives real practical advice of the kind that only one who has survived and transcended the experience is able to give. This is the ideal book for a young person or a supportive parent to read." -Matt Posner, New York City teacher and co-author of Teen Guide to Sex and Relationships.