Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms

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Fortress Press
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5.5 X 8.4 X 0.6 inches | 0.48 pounds

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About the Author
Matthias Roberts is a licensed mental health counselor associate in Seattle, Washington, and host of Queerology: A Podcast on Belief and Being. He holds two masters degrees, one in theology and culture and one in counseling psychology. In his psychotherapy practice, he specializes in helping LGBTQ+ teens and adults live confident and fulfilling lives. He writes and speaks nationwide about the intersections between gender, sexuality, mental health, and theology.

Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD is an educator, sex therapist, medical family therapist, speaker, author, consultant, and thought leader. She serves as an Associate Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy and Director of Medical Family Therapy in the School of Psychology, Family & Community at Seattle Pacific University. Her popular blog is filled with inspiring ideas on marriage, parenting, spirituality, sexuality, and culture. Tina's community built website,, is internationally acclaimed. Inspired by the Project, TGFS brings video stories of people who are healing from religious sexual shame.


All readers, especially LGBTQ Christians, will come away feeling energized and equipped to deploy the suggestions for healthier sexuality without the weight of shame. --Publishers Weekly

Beyond Shame cuts to the heart of our cultural shame around sex and sexuality and points us toward freedom from that shame in a way that invites readers of all identities and orientations toward health and love. This is an essential work. --Mike McHargue, host of Science Mike and author of Finding God in the Waves

In Beyond Shame, Matthias Roberts asks questions and brings up issues that are difficult to discuss in our current sexual climate, yet so incredibly necessary. I'm so thankful for his contribution to the project of developing healthy sexuality after purity culture. --Emily Joy Allison-Hearn, cocreator of the #ChurchToo movement, embodied justice advocate, poet, and yoga teacher

This book is an invitation to express our sexuality in a way that's free of shame and rooted in love. Roberts delivers fascinating research in a pastoral manner, giving us the resources we need to live with integrity in light of our values. --Julie Rodgers, writer, speaker, and advocate for LGBTQ Christians

In Beyond Shame, Roberts eases us through the deconstruction of the sex-related shame that so many have grown up with, but he doesn't leave us in the rubble. If you're ready to start making something new, this book will offer questions and data you need to ponder in order to build that new structure: a model of ethical sexuality that takes all of who you are into account. --Austen Hartke, author of Transforming: The Bible and the Lives of Transgender Christians

In Beyond Shame, Matthias Roberts sets up a theologically thoughtful and accessible framework in which to think specifically through the entanglement of sex and shame in our culture. His personal stories and how he lives this out make this work compelling, and it challenges me to actively live in the beauty of this struggle. --Mihee Kim-Kort, author of Outside the Lines: How Embracing Queerness Will Transform Your Faith

Equal parts academic knowledge and experiential wisdom, Roberts has painstakingly and lovingly created a phenomenal resource for those wondering where to begin in rebuilding a new sexual ethic out of the ashes of their former fundamentalism. I am ecstatic to be able to offer this book as a resource to my clients, family, and friends. --Jamie Lee Finch, author of You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity

Compassionate and intelligent, Beyond Shame is a step-by-step guide to reconnecting spirit and body, helping readers claim the joy and health of sex. --Rev. Elizabeth M. Edman, author of Queer Virtue: What LGBTQ People Know about Life and Love and How It Can Revitalize Christianity

In Beyond Shame, Roberts invites us to first notice the shame surrounding our sexuality and then to step beyond it. This book is for anyone who has ever doubted if their sexuality is good or loves someone who has. --Hillary McBride, PhD, therapist, speaker, and author of Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are

This book will make you fall in love with your humanity, your sexuality, and your true self all over again. --Sam Lamott, producer and host of How to Human