
Beyond Love Trauma
Paul A. Wagner
(Author)Description
Discover the Three Intimacies and How They Work Together.
So you're truly over your divorce? You've fought the furies, you've escaped that feeling of being kept in limbo, you've learned to live alone, you have been through what we call Love Trauma. Now you're ready for Beyond Love Trauma. In this new second book of Wagner's Love Trauma series, he insists on the maxim "Know Thyself." If you're ready to move into a new relationship, this is your mantra. You can't become the ultimate "catch" if you don't know yourself.
Perhaps the most useful part of Beyond Love Trauma is Wagner's description of the three intimacies:
-sexual,
-intellectual, and
-emotional.
As Wagner argues, all three are necessary for a romance to achieve, finally, what he describes as the ultimate relationship, one of "erotic love."
To be afraid to be alone is not a good reason to marry. And marriage-or any romantic relationship-is not a place to think "What's in it for me?" A committed marriage requires an attitude of "How can we pursue a long-term goal?" what Wagner calls a "life commitment."
From an in-depth discussion on places to meet others to attacking the "ideal" that divorcees set up for themselves, the second book takes a hard look at the ways in which men and women sabotage their efforts to "get back into the game."
He urges divorcees to take their time moving forward, establish trust and respect, before leaping into marriage or another relationship. Beyond Love Trauma is a book which will set you free to negotiate the effects of Love Trauma.
Award:2019 International Book Awards - Health: Psychology/Mental Health - Finalist
Product Details
Publisher | 3rd Coast Books L.L.C. |
Publish Date | January 28, 2018 |
Pages | 254 |
Language | English |
Type | |
EAN/UPC | 9781946743039 |
Dimensions | 9.0 X 6.0 X 0.6 inches | 0.8 pounds |
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Reviews
I have just finished reading Paul Wagner's book, Beyond Love Trauma, about dating after divorce. The topic reminds me of the old adage, "Remarriage is the triumph of hope over experience." But Paul goes way beyond that, interviewing hundreds of men and women of all ages and economic backgrounds. He not only looks at the challenges of dating after divorce, he presents stories, related by his subjects, about their successes and failures. My favorite story about first dates concerns a 22 year old college student who enlists his fraternity brothers in planning a bike, picnic, canoe outing first date. Because of the planning and imagination that went into it, it went very well. The story reminds me that when we were young, we relied much more on our imaginations to make up for lack of experience and conventional wisdom that we do now. Of course, not all of Paul's subjects were successful, but he lets them speak for themselves. I recommend the book.
Finding books that can help you go beyond the trauma of a divorce and to realize that there is something special waiting for you beyond the love trauma is eye opening to your soul. Paul writes with wisdom and with experience. You will learn what is critical to go to the next step and beyond.
I highly recommend this book!
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