By Louise Julig
I love a good memoir, and some of my favorites have been written by some fierce-ass women. Here's a list to get you started, but check back periodically because I'll keep adding as I read more books.
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Louise Julig (she/her/hers) is a creative nonfiction writer living in Southern California who writes Be Your Own Hero, a newsletter about being brave in small moments. Find her essays, performances and upcoming events at www.louisejulig.com.
Maggie Smith
$19.99
$18.59
This book is one of a growing number of fiercely honest interrogations of marriage and relationship that have come out in recent years, including Blow Your House Down, Foreverland, and American Honey. It’s incisive, bittersweet, and ultimately hopeful. I can’t recommend it enough.
Gina Frangello
$27.00
$25.11
This searing memoir unflinchingly examines the author's life as her marriage implodes, while at the same time situating herself in the greater context of women's place in contemporary society. Beautifully written and riveting.
Lilly Dancyger
$16.95
$15.76
A memoir of discovery based on the author's decades-long exploration of her artist-father's past in hopes of finding new ways to connect with his memory and legacy as an adult.
Eva Holland
$24.95
$23.20
Nerve is Eva Holland's quest to wrestle with her lifelong fears through both reportage and reflection. Seamlessly blending her personal experiences with fascinating science, Nerve will take you on a journey through fear and back.
Eilene Zimmerman
$27.00
$25.11
Eilene Zimmerman's reported memoir pieces together the story of her lawyer ex-husband's secret descent into drug abuse while exposing the not-often-told story of upper class, white-collar addiction. Riveting and compelling
Mira Jacob
$22.00
$20.46
In this graphic memoir, Jacob explores the messy bonds of family through the lens of growing up as a child of Indian immigrants in New Mexico in the 80s and being the mother of a biracial child in New York City in the 2010s. Includes portions of her (awkward, hilarious) experiences as a bisexual woman.
Jen Trynin
$21.99
Jen Trynin's memoir of becoming almost famous as a contemporary of Alanis Morissette is clear-eyed and eye-opening. It'll also make you nostalgic for the early '90s.
Joyce Maynard
$22.00
$20.46
Joyce Maynard was vilified when she broke her silence about the relationship she had with J.D. Salinger when she was a teenager. But At Home In the World is a clear-eyed perspective from a quarter century afterward that claims her right to tell her story and show that she has a voice beyond the girl Salinger abandoned. Still worth reading today.
Leslie Jamison
$21.99
$20.45
In an interview with the Guardian, Jamison calls this "a big book: critical, reported, personal, all sorts of things," and it's an apt description. A memoir, yes, but also cultural criticism and reportage. She could have easily left out all the personal bits about her own recovery journey, but it wouldn't have been nearly the book that The Recovering is.
Melissa Febos
$18.99
$17.66
This book covers the time from the author's junior year of college to midway through grad school when she worked as a professional dominatrix in a midtown Manhattan dungeon. She was also, for at least half that time, a high-functioning heroin addict. It is not only a fascinating insider’s look at a hidden subculture, but also a keen interrogation of the ways we so often lie to ourselves and the freedom that comes from finally seeing the truth.
Carmen Maria Machado
$18.00
$16.74
Carmen Maria Machado's swirling, experimental forms lead the reader through this memoir of relationship abuse survival and emotional redemption.
Ariel Levy
$19.00
$17.67
One of my favorite memoirs ever. Beautifully written narrative of what it feels like when life just doesn't end up the way you thought it would. Expanded from the award-winning essay, Thanksgiving in Mongolia.
Kristen Joiner,
Judith Heumann
$16.99
$15.80
Heumann contracted polio as a toddler and grew up disabled in the '50s to then go on to become a leading disability rights advocate. This book was a real eye-opener as to what people with disabilities have had to fight for since then. A quick, engaging read.
Mary Karr
$18.00
$16.74
The lesser-known middle memoir by the author of The Liar's Club and Lit, Cherry covers the coming of age of one of the fiercest memoirists in the canon.
Alison Bechdel
$18.99
$17.66
The now-classic graphic memoir that went on to become a hit broadway show. Bechdel explores the relationship with her troubled, closeted father after his suicide while reflecting on her own lesbian coming of age.
Nadia Bolz-Weber
$18.99
$17.66
Pastrix is the story of nontraditional Lutheran minister Nadia Bolz-Weber's journey from her fundamentalist upbringing through addiction and stand-up comedy to ministry as a "deeply faithful, deeply flawed" pastor.
Ayaan Hirsi Ali
$19.99
$18.59
Aayan Hirsi Ali's clear, urgent prose takes the reader on a journey from growing up in the restrictive Somali culture subject to genital mutilation, through Saudi Arabia, Ethiopia, Kenya, and eventually to the Netherlands where she became an outspoken political figure, her voice gaining clarity and urgency along the way.
Julissa Arce
$17.99
$16.73
Julissa Arce documents what it's like to grow up undocumented and ambitious, both longing and afraid to be seen. Her story exposes the arbitrary boundaries we draw in American culture around who is deemed worthy.
Louise Julig (she/her/hers) is a creative nonfiction writer living in Southern California who writes Be Your Own Hero, a newsletter about being brave in small moments. Find her essays, performances and upcoming events at www.louisejulig.com.