Where's the Mother?: Stories from a Transgender Dad

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Price
$34.99  $32.19
Publisher
Trans Canada Press
Publish Date
Pages
280
Dimensions
6.0 X 0.69 X 9.0 inches | 1.17 pounds
Language
English
Type
Hardcover
EAN/UPC
9780991964512

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About the Author

Trevor MacDonald started his blog, www.milkjunkies.net, to share his experiences of transitioning, becoming pregnant, and breastfeeding with the use of supplementary donated human milk. Since 2011, milkjunkies.net has received over half a million visitors. Trevor founded the first online support group for transgender people interested in pregnancy, birth, and breast or chestfeeding. He has initiated and helped to design and carry out a study funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research on the experiences of transmasculine individuals with pregnancy, birth, and infant feeding. He received international media attention in 2013 when his application to volunteer with his local chapter of La Leche League, a worldwide breastfeeding support organization, was blocked on the grounds of his gender identity. He successfully campaigned for a change to LLL's policy in 2014. Trevor is a Huffington Post featured blogger, and has appeared as a speaker and workshop leader at conferences such as Yonifest (with Ina May Gaskin and Michel Odent); the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference; the Canadian Professional Association for Transgender Health; the Canadian Association of Midwives; and the International Lactation Consultant Association, to name a few. He frequently presents educational sessions for church groups, university courses, LGBT youth groups, and health care workers.
Dr Giles was appointed to the Media and Communications Department of the University of Sydney in June 2005 and has held positions during this time as Postgraduate Coursework Coordinator, Degree Director of Media Practice, Publishing and Health Communication and Associate Dean for Postgraduate Coursework. She was Chair of Department throughout 2014 and 2015.

Reviews

"A deeply compelling memoir from a transgender man who birthed and breastfed his children - it's informative, inspiring, and transformational."-- DIANA WEST, co-author of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, 8th edition. "Despite the challenges, Trevor doesn't take himself too seriously: he always keeps his sense of humor and his humility. You can't help but be drawn into his story."-- TERESA PITMAN, co-author, The Ultimate Book of Breastfeeding Answers and The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th ed.) "Well-written, engaging, friendly, informative, and laugh-out-loud in places! I really enjoyed it."-- International best-selling author Fiona Giles (Fresh Milk: The Secret Life of Breasts and Dick for a Day: What Would You do if You Had One?)
"A fascinating and informative memoir of birth and parenthood from a transgender voice - Trevor shows us how breastfeeding a baby is about so much more than just milk. For anyone wondering if they can breastfeed, this is your book." -- DR. JACK NEWMAN, Director, International Breastfeeding Centre and author, Dr. Jack Newman's Guide To Breastfeeding. "A deeply compelling memoir from a transgender man who birthed and breastfed his children - it's informative, inspiring, and transformational." -- DIANA WEST, co-author of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, 8th edition. "A transgender Dad embarking on the journey of pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, and parenting can be endlessly confronted by stares, curiosity, hostility, and confusion over language from coworkers, strangers, and birth workers. Culturally competent doulas can and should take the time to listen to the experience of transgender parents, to learn why they may make the choices they do about care providers, birth locations, and which procedures and interventions they may want to decline if possible. Where's the Mother is a wonderful place to start, and is eye-opening for new and seasoned doulas alike. Doula Trainings International will be adding Where's the Mother to our required reading list for certifying doulas and highly recommends that current DTI doulas read it as well for continuing education." -- DOULA TRAININGS INTERNATIONAL. "Despite the challenges, Trevor doesn't take himself too seriously: he always keeps his sense of humor and his humility. You can't help but be drawn into his story." -- TERESA PITMAN, co-author, The Ultimate Book of Breastfeeding Answers and The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th edition). "Well-written, engaging, friendly, informative, and laugh-out-loud in places! I really enjoyed it." -- International best-selling author Fiona Giles (Fresh Milk: The Secret Life of Breasts and Dick for a Day: What Would You do if You Had One?).
]"A deeply compelling memoir by a transgender man who birthed and breastfed his children - it's inspiring, informative, and transformational." - DIANA WEST, co-author of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th ed.) "'Where's The Mother' is an honest, accessible, and heartwarming memoir that follows his story from transition to pregnancy to finding a network of breastmilk-sharing parents. The book offers insight into what it was like for MacDonald to be both male and pregnant. But just as every cisgender parent is different, so is every trans parent. MacDonald wanted to challenge the popular tropes about trans people. 'Where's the Mother' will undoubtedly become an excellent resource for trans and non-binary parents." - BUZZFEED "The Canadian trans man behind gay parenting blog Milk Junkies offers readers a tender, earnest window into the journey to fatherhood he and his husband took in Where's the Mother ... a candid exploration of cultural questions that will be familiar to any same-sex couple raising children in a world that isn't always welcoming. With his accessible, humorous writing, MacDonald unapologetically (but gently) pushes back on assumptions that presume everyone who gives birth to a child must be a woman, and that only mothers can produce milk to nourish their babies .... 'Where's the Mother' helps to fill a void in cultural competency around, particularly, the trans-masculine parenting experience." - THE ADVOCATE "A fascinating and informative memoir of birth and parenthood from a transgender voice - Trevor shows us how breastfeeding a baby is about so much more than just milk. For anyone wondering if they can breastfeed, this is your book." - DR. JACK NEWMAN, author and Director, International Breastfeeding Centre "Do you find yourself uncomfortable with the idea of a transgender man breastfeeding a baby and then being certified as an LLL Leader? Or are you just curious as to why someone would put himself in that situation? You will want to read, 'Where's The Mother.' Blending facts with the feelings that have been part of his journey, MacDonald will help you to better understand a revolution that is taking place, as transgender people receive the support they need to be true to their gender identity." - MARIAN TOMPSON, co-founder, La Leche League "Wonderful and eye-opening. Doula Trainings International will be adding 'Where's the Mother' to our required reading list for certifying doulas and highly recommends that current DTI doulas read it as well for continuing education." - DOULA TRAININGS INTERNATIONAL "As a man who went through pregnancy, I found the book to be very relatable. Several pregnancy books written for women had parts that were relevant to me, but if I'd read 'Where's the Mother' before going through it myself, I think the process would have been less scary." - SION JESSE, Community Advocate, Philadelphia I read this book more voraciously than I have read anything in a long time. As a pregnant trans person I greatly appreciated his story, being shared in his own words. It is woven beautifully with the stories of those he encountered along the way and helpful information about pregnancy, birthing and chestfeeding all written in language that felt relevant and accessible to me." - KORI DOTY, radio host of Sex, Drugs, and How We Roll "Despite the challenges, Trevor doesn't take himself too seriously: he always keeps his sense of humor and his humility. You can't help but be drawn into his story." - TERESA PITMAN, co-author, The Ultimate Book of Breastfeeding Answers and The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th edition) "Well-written, engaging, friendly, informative, and laugh-out-loud in places! I really enjoyed it." - FIONA GILES, author of Fresh Milk: The Secret Life of Breasts
"A deeply compelling memoir by a transgender man who birthed and breastfed his children - it's inspiring, informative, and transformational." - DIANA WEST, co-author of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th ed.) "'Where's The Mother' is an honest, accessible, and heartwarming memoir that follows his story from transition to pregnancy to finding a network of breastmilk-sharing parents. The book offers insight into what it was like for MacDonald to be both male and pregnant. But just as every cisgender parent is different, so is every trans parent. MacDonald wanted to challenge the popular tropes about trans people. 'Where's the Mother' will undoubtedly become an excellent resource for trans and non-binary parents." - BUZZFEED "The Canadian trans man behind gay parenting blog Milk Junkies offers readers a tender, earnest window into the journey to fatherhood he and his husband took in Where's the Mother ... a candid exploration of cultural questions that will be familiar to any same-sex couple raising children in a world that isn't always welcoming. With his accessible, humorous writing, MacDonald unapologetically (but gently) pushes back on assumptions that presume everyone who gives birth to a child must be a woman, and that only mothers can produce milk to nourish their babies .... 'Where's the Mother' helps to fill a void in cultural competency around, particularly, the trans-masculine parenting experience." - THE ADVOCATE "A fascinating and informative memoir of birth and parenthood from a transgender voice - Trevor shows us how breastfeeding a baby is about so much more than just milk. For anyone wondering if they can breastfeed, this is your book." - DR. JACK NEWMAN, author and Director, International Breastfeeding Centre "Do you find yourself uncomfortable with the idea of a transgender man breastfeeding a baby and then being certified as an LLL Leader? Or are you just curious as to why someone would put himself in that situation? You will want to read, 'Where's The Mother.' Blending facts with the feelings that have been part of his journey, MacDonald will help you to better understand a revolution that is taking place, as transgender people receive the support they need to be true to their gender identity." - MARIAN TOMPSON, co-founder, La Leche League "Wonderful and eye-opening. Doula Trainings International will be adding 'Where's the Mother' to our required reading list for certifying doulas and highly recommends that current DTI doulas read it as well for continuing education." - DOULA TRAININGS INTERNATIONAL "As a man who went through pregnancy, I found the book to be very relatable. Several pregnancy books written for women had parts that were relevant to me, but if I'd read 'Where's the Mother' before going through it myself, I think the process would have been less scary." - SION JESSE, Community Advocate, Philadelphia I read this book more voraciously than I have read anything in a long time. As a pregnant trans person I greatly appreciated his story, being shared in his own words. It is woven beautifully with the stories of those he encountered along the way and helpful information about pregnancy, birthing and chestfeeding all written in language that felt relevant and accessible to me." - KORI DOTY, radio host of Sex, Drugs, and How We Roll "Despite the challenges, Trevor doesn't take himself too seriously: he always keeps his sense of humor and his humility. You can't help but be drawn into his story." - TERESA PITMAN, co-author, The Ultimate Book of Breastfeeding Answers and The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (8th edition) "Well-written, engaging, friendly, informative, and laugh-out-loud in places! I really enjoyed it." - FIONA GILES, author of Fresh Milk: The Secret Life of Breasts