Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Ada Calhoun (Author)


We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clich s around marriage--eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates--leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse's mistakes, you might miss being single.

In Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which "the first twenty years are the hardest."

Calhoun's funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. "What a burden," Calhoun calls marriage, "and what a gift."

Product Details

$15.95  $14.67
W. W. Norton & Company
Publish Date
June 05, 2018
5.5 X 0.5 X 8.0 inches | 0.35 pounds
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About the Author

Ada Calhoun has written for the New York Times, New York magazine, and the New York Post. Her book St. Marks Is Dead was named a New York Times Editors' Choice and a Boston Globe Best Book of the Year.


Ada Calhoun has written the definitive meditation on marriage in all of its mystery and imperfection. It should be required reading for anyone considering it, and highly recommended for those who want to be reminded of why they did it in the first place.--Molly Ringwald
Ada Calhoun is the friend we all need--the one who lets us behind the curtain of her good marriage to help us better understand our own. She's smart, funny, and, best of all, willing to bare all.--Emma Straub, New York Times best-selling author of Modern Lovers
A warm, tart, corrective to the persistent conviction that a wedding is the neat end of a love story.--Rebecca Traister, New York Times best-selling author of All the Single Ladies
[Calhoun's] witty, enthusiastic, emotional, and hard-headed reflections ought to be required reading for anyone entering, experiencing, leaving or avoiding marriage.--Jonathan Sale
By turns funny, melancholy, and profound. A thoughtful read of the monogamous, non-monogamous, and every relationship iteration in between.
A fine gift to tuck between negligees and garter belts at the more literary bride's shower. A breezy, warm-hearted meditation on the nature of matrimony.... [Calhoun's] wry, likable voice is at its Ephronesque best.--Lisa Zeidner
Light and funny... original, engrossing.--Heather Havrilesky
Raise a glass to these reality-check essays that are equal parts ode to marriage... and sly acknowledgment of its challenges.--10 Titles to Pick Up Now