Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships


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5.1 X 7.9 X 0.8 inches | 0.7 pounds

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About the Author

Stella Harris is a Certified Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach, who uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella teaches at venues and conferences across the US (and Canada!) while maintaining a private practice in her adopted hometown of Portland, Oregon. Stella's first book, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships was published by Cleis Press in September 2018. Learn more at or follow @stellaharriserotica on Instagram.


"Stella Harris tackles common and complex sex and relational issues with honesty and ease. Tongue Tied provides the reader with easy and straightforward language that is needed to build a more complete sexual self, no matter who you are." --Elle Stanger, podcast host of StrangeBedfellows--Elle Stanger
"We've all heard that communication is vital to relationships, but it's often easier unsaid than done. In Tongue Tied, Stella Harris breaks down exactly how to talk to your partner(s) or dates about often tricky subjects like BDSM, threesomes, jealousy and even money. Communication is complicated, but Harris gives us an essential roadmap to make it easier to have the kinds of relationships we truly want." --Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor, 'Best Women's Erotica of the Year' series--Rachel Kramer Bussel
"No matter your relationship style or kink level, Harris' practical wisdom will completely transform how you relate to others. This book is required reading for healthy relationships!" --Sunny Megatron, Sexuality & Kink Educator, host of American Sex Podcast--Sunny Megatron
"Tongue Tied by Stella Harris is a book I just want to buy for absolutely everyone...It is stuffed full of useful information, expertly communicated. And even better, it actually got me excited about communication!" --Aurora Glory--Aurora Glory
"This detailed, user-friendly, and conscientious book deals with nearly every imaginable aspect of intimate human relationships, covering everything from analingus to apologies." --Bradley Buchanan, Tulsa Book Review--Bradley Buchanan "Tulsa Book Review "
"[Tongue Tied] gives you a better impression of not just how to communicate, but what you need to do so." --Adriana Ravenlust, Of Sex and Love--Adriana Ravenlust "Of Sex and Love "