Tell Me How to Be
Neel Patel (Author)
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December 07, 2021
5.4 X 8.3 X 1.3 inches | 0.9 pounds
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About the Author
Neel Patel is a first-generation Indian American who grew up in Champaign, Illinois. His debut story collection, If You See Me, Don't Say Hi, was a New York Times Book Review Editor's Choice and was long-listed for the Story Prize and the Aspen Words Literary Prize. He currently lives in Los Angeles. Tell Me How to Be is his debut novel.
Praise for Tell Me How To Be:A Lilly's Library Book Club Pick from Lilly Singh
A Most Anticipated Book (The TODAY Show, Good Morning America, Harper's Bazaar, Reader's Digest, Business Insider, The Millions, Lambda Literary, Goodreads, PopSugar, Bustle, Chicago Review of Books, LGBTQ Reads, Alta, Apartment Therapy) An Amazon Best Book of the Month "A beautiful book about a mother and son...I really loved this book."
--Rumaan Alam on The TODAY Show
"If you like stories about families coming to terms with long-held secrets, Patel's self-assured debut should be on your radar."
--Harper's Bazaar "This debut novel about an Indian-American family has all the right ingredients: family secrets, love, sexuality, loss, identity questions and remorse."
--Good Morning America "Both irreverent and tender, this story of a recently widowed mother and grown son going through the motions of selling the family home, each trying to figure out how to best make each other happy while learning to accept their mistakes and each other, is a love story at its heart."
--Reader's Digest "Generous and soulful...As enveloping and warm as a long-overdue hug from a loved one, and written in accessible, dynamic prose, it'd make a perfect last-minute holiday gift for any son to give a mother, and read for themselves, too."
--Chicago Review of Books "A funny and moving story about forgiveness and learning to move forward."
"Readers who enjoyed Nadia Hashimi's Sparks Like Stars and Jonathan Franzen's The Corrections will enjoy similar complicated family dynamics and needing to read between the lines of what is being said to get at what is meant. Highly recommend to anyone keeping secrets from their families."
--ALA Rainbow Round Table
"A funny, yet heartbreaking story of a mother and son grappling with grief and moving on from the past together."
"[A] resplendent debut...Patel skillfully maneuvers through the treacherous territory of abandoned dreams, family squabbles, and cultural clashes before finding a resounding catharsis for mother and son. The result is noteworthy and memorable."
--Publishers Weekly (starred review) "Emotionally rich...A winner for book clubs and those who enjoy a little heartstring pulling."
--Booklist "Strong characters and a sharp depiction of familial secrets."
--Kirkus "Once in a while there comes a book that reminds us of why we read: to feel, to question, to grow. This is that book. A love letter to R&B, youth, and the unforgettable agonies of one's first love. The emotional truth of this indelibly portrayed family and their messy lives will leave you weeping and shattered. I will read everything Neel Patel writes from here on."
--Susie Yang, New York Times bestselling author of White Ivy "Tell Me How to Be is daring, hilarious, poignant, and impossible to put down. Neel Patel is a fabulous storyteller!"
--Deesha Philyaw, author of The Secret Lives of Church Ladies
"A soulful and seductive love song of a book, Tell Me How to Be is a keen and sharply hilarious celebration of the universal messiness of desire and the necessity of coming clean first with ourselves. I laughed out loud at the prickliness of Renu and ached for Akash through the book's careful unfurling of the past. In this examination of identity through yearning and loss and the enduring consequences of denial, Patel has crafted an unforgettable duet between mother and son."
--Nancy Jooyoun Kim, New York Times bestselling author of The Last Story of Mina Lee "I loved Tell Me How to Be's story of family, first love, and figuring out your place in the world. Neel's writing is vulnerable, authentic and entertaining. This book gives a fresh perspective to complicated family relationships...something everyone can relate to."
--Lilly Singh, #1 New York Times bestselling author of How to Be a Bawse "Neel Patel's compelling first novel tells a story that is sometimes funny, sometimes disturbing, and, by the end, deeply moving. Tell Me How to Be explores the high price of secrets, deceit, and regret and the redemptive power of speaking one's truth. Patel's short chapters, immensely readable prose, and talent for continually raising the stakes for his complicated characters kept me turning the pages late into the night. A memorable debut."
--Stephen McCauley, author of My Ex-Life
Immersive, seductive and elegant, this novel shimmers richly on the surface, even as its depths pulse with potent heartbreak and loss.
--Mahesh Rao, author of Polite Society
Praise for If You See Me, Don't Say Hi: "Patel upends what we think the experience of Indians in America looks like. It's about time." --Rumaan Alam, author of Leave the World Behind
"Refreshing...Defiant...Consistently surprising." --The New York Times Book Review "Patel writes with the wisdom and compassion of an old soul." --Celeste Ng, New York Times bestselling author of Little Fires Everywhere
"Surprising, funny...Brave...A reminder that messiness makes the human experience beautiful." --NPR
"A joy to read, reminiscent of Jhumpa Lahiri and David Ebershoff. What exquisite writing. What a tremendous talent." --Imbolo Mbue, New York Times bestselling author of Behold the Dreamers
"Patel turns his lens on Indian-Americans, addressing with depth and care subjects that are often overlooked or made into caricature." --Vanity Fair
"Neel Patel upends stereotypes, especially Indian-American masculinity. He's at his most remarkable when illuminating the experience of queer men making sense of their sexuality, and allowing themselves to hope for a happy ending." --BuzzFeed
"Patel will make you laugh, then cry, then feel uncomfortable, then feel free, all within a few pages." --Scaachi Koul, author of One Day We'll All Be Dead and None of This Will Matter