Love Is an Ex-Country

Randa Jarrar (Author)
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Queer. Muslim. Arab American. A proudly Fat woman. Randa Jarrar is all of these things. In this provocative memoir of a cross-country road trip, she explores how to claim joy in an unraveling and hostile America.

Randa Jarrar is a fearless voice of dissent who has been called politically incorrect (Michelle Goldberg, The New York Times). As an American raised for a time in Egypt, and finding herself captivated by the story of a celebrated Egyptian belly dancer's journey across the United States in the 1940s, she sets off from her home in California to her parents' in Connecticut.

Coloring this road trip are journeys abroad and recollections of a life lived with daring. Reclaiming her autonomy after a life of survival--domestic assault as a child, and later, as a wife; threats and doxxing after her viral tweet about Barbara Bush--Jarrar offers a bold look at domestic violence, single motherhood, and sexuality through the lens of the punished-yet-triumphant body. On the way, she schools a rest-stop racist, destroys Confederate flags in the desert, and visits the Chicago neighborhood where her immigrant parents first lived.

Hailed as one of the finest writers of her generation (Laila Lalami), Jarrar delivers a euphoric and critical, funny and profound memoir that will speak to anyone who has felt erased, asserting: I am here. I am joyful.

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Publish Date
February 02, 2021

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About the Author

Randa Jarrar is the author of the novel A Map of Home and the collection of stories Him, Me, Muhammad Ali. Her work has appeared in The New York Times Magazine, Salon, Bitch, BuzzFeed, and elsewhere. She is a recipient of a Creative Capital Award and an American Book Award, as well as awards and fellowships from the Civitella Ranieri Foundation, the Lannan Foundation, Hedgebrook, PEN, and others. A professor of creative writing and a performer, Jarrar lives in Los Angeles.


"If you have ever felt lonely or horny or angry or magnificent; if you have had no country or too many countries or you have left your country behind; if you have spoken truth to power or trusted the wrong people and suffered the consequences; if you have ever gotten in a car and driven across the landscape because you had to: this memoir is for you. What a boon it is, a perfect, unforgettable howl of a book."--Carmen Maria Machado, author of In the Dream House

"Randa Jarrar is the Arab femme daddy of my dreams and her voice is nothing short of ROYAL. Imagine Hatshepsut as the daughter of immigrants, motoring across the United States of America, glorying in the art of the road trip: that's the type of literary, diasporic, and necessary realness Randa serves."--Myriam Gurba, author of Mean

"There wasn't a page in this memoir that didn't make me want to jump up and cheer, murmur in awe, scream with laughter, or weep. Randa Jarrar is a top-notch writer, a tender warrior, a truth teller of sensuous and magnificent power; she is exactly the kind of role model we need right now." --Melissa Febos, author of Abandon Me
Praise for Randa Jarrar's other works:

"Sharp and irreverent.... When Jarrar's sense of humor tangles with her character's feelings ofestrangement, the results are often charming and funny." --Los Angeles Times

"These stories showcase the strength and talent of a writer of immeasurable gift and grace, who confronts the poignant and often brutal realities her characters face with sass and verve." --Los Angeles Review of Books

"[An] extraordinary debut . . . Jarrar's lack of sentimentality, and her wry sense of humor, make A Map of Home a treasure." --People (four stars)

"A Map of Home will leave you laughing out loud." --Entertainment Weekly

"Randa Jarrar takes all the sappy, beloved cliches about 'where you hang your hat' and blows them to smithereens in her energizing, caustically comic debut novel." --The Christian Science Monitor