Becoming a Man: The Story of a Transition


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About the Author

P. Carl is a distinguished artist-in-residence at Emerson College in Boston, and was awarded a 2017 Art of Change Fellowship from the Ford Foundation, the Berlin Prize fellowship from the American Academy for the Fall of 2018, the Andrew W. Mellon Creative Research Residency at the University of Washington, and the Anschutz Fellowship at Princeton for spring of 2020. He made theater for twenty years and now writes, teaches, travels, mountain climbs, and swims. He resides in Boston and lives with his wife of twenty-two years, the writer Lynette D'Amico, and their dogs Lenny and Sonny. Becoming a Man is his first book.


"[Carl] writes with the directness and intimacy we yearn to encounter in conversation. Becoming A Man is a memoir that is jolting, honest, passionate and beautifully written."
--Claudia Rankine
"Raw and honest, probing and skeptical, P. Carl's Becoming a Man is thoroughly compelling--a deeply moving meditation on love, loss, and what makes a self."
--Elizabeth Kolbert
"Becoming a Man is a fierce and thoughtful memoir of a transitioning body. In grappling with his own biology, gender theory, politics, and relationships, P. Carl has proven himself an indispensable voice in the conversation around gender identity. His story is a galvanizing call to action: to love, embrace, and fight for transgender lives."
--Jill Soloway, creator and showrunner of Transparent
"In Becoming a Man, P. Carl movingly and incisively conveys experiences that range from self-perception to mortality itself; experiences that matter to all of us, regardless of our sexual identities. Becoming a Man is a profound human story." --Michael Cunningham, author of The Hours

"Nearing its final pages, I had scrawled so many questions in the margins that I began to question the nature of my curiosity. A new thought emerged: that this is one of the risks and delights of a good memoir. If the writer has done the job well, the reader falls in love - and one principal feature of love is that it craves access to every part of you."--Gerrard Conley, New York Times Book Review

"This moving narrative illuminates the joy, courage, necessity, and risk-taking of his gender transition and the ways his loved ones became affected and eventually enriched by it. A passionate, eloquent memoir about how "complex stories of humanity [and] our capacity for imagination are what give us hope."--Kirkus

"In this deeply personal and moving debut memoir, theater writer Carl shares the story of his difficult yet triumphant gender transition.... Carl's honest, timely musings illustrate the deep ruminations that can arise about one's assigned gender at birth and the gender one becomes. Carl's thoughts about sexuality and his compassionate feelings for sexual assault survivors will captivate readers from the first page to the last."--Publishers Weekly

In a scrupulously honest memoir, P. Carl examines how his transition upended both his marriage and his notions of white masculinity. Included within is a compassionate letter he composes to his lesbian-identifying wife: "I wonder as I write this what you miss most."--O, The Oprah Magazine

"Wondrous.... Carl has written a poignant and candid self-appraisal of life as a 'work of progress.'"--Booklist