At a Loss: Finding Your Way After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Death
If you've experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, termination of pregnancy due to health risk or abnormality, or death in the first year of your baby's life, you're not alone. Life after these losses can be heartbreaking, confusing, and lonely. Family, friends, and medical professionals may minimize your loss or say "You can always try again."
Written by a psychologist who experienced two pregnancy losses herself, At a Loss offers thirty essays on the thoughts, feelings, and struggles that come along with losing a pregnancy or baby. Whether you are early in a crisis of grief or exploring the loss years afterward, you will find self-compassion, healing, and new ways to make meaning of your loss.
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A heartfelt and wide-ranging series of encouragements for dealing with grief.
If there was ever a book that could be your true friend when you most needed one, this is that kind of book. Open these pages and you will find comfort and relief.
--Mira Ptacin, author of the award-winning memoir Poor Your Soul
At a Loss is an important modern guide to navigating life after the passing of your baby during pregnancy or infancy. Dr. Rothert offers wisdom and real-life suggestions, drawing from her personal experience as well as the countless hours she has spent counseling other parents who have endured this unimaginable tragedy.
--Kiley Hanish, OTD, OTR/L; founder, Return to Zero: HOPE
This is a lovely and much-needed book. Donna Rothert takes an overwhelming experience and helps the reader process it a piece at a time. Her essays are little gems, thoughtful and practical, but also written with depth and humor. Because the author shares her own experience with loss, she is not just an authority, but also a companion for any reader dealing with pregnancy loss, newborn death, or termination of a wanted pregnancy.
--Jeanne Menary, EdD, founder and leader of Beyond Choice Support Group
Donna Rothert shares with us the possibility that our greatest vulnerability may lead us into a more deeply loving, aware, and compassionate life. As dads, we too need a guide to help us unlock our feelings about losing a pregnancy or a baby. Take Donna's hand and allow her to walk with you through the darkest night.
--Bruce Linton, PhD, founder of the Fathers' Forum and author of Fatherhood: The Journey from Man to Dad
Fortunately for us, Donna Rothert is not at a loss for words. In At a Loss, she speaks not only from clinical experience but also from personal experience, including a variety of voices to help us navigate the complexity of perinatal loss. Hers is definitely a comforting voice. As Rothert herself puts it in the introduction to her book, "Whoever and wherever you are, I'm sorry for your loss. I wish you comfort and I wish you strength."
--Monica Wesolowska, author of Holding Silvan: A Brief Life
"At a Loss offers gentle guidance for anybody navigating the terribly tumultuous terrain of perinatal-related grief. Seemingly insurmountable sorrow is given a most sincere, respectful, and honoring reprieve throughout these pages. Readers will find solace in the soul-sourced wisdom as well a dedicated place to rest, connect, and recalibrate toward a clearer, more compassionate understanding of their unique path of healing."
--Meghan Lewis, PhD, founding executive director, LGBTQ Perinatal Wellness Center
"Donna's book is a treasure. I highly recommend it to bereaved parents and the professionals providing their care."
--Molly A. Minnick, LMSW, co-author of A Time to Decide, a Time to Heal